Did you know that a breakup activates the same part of the brain that processes physical pain?
Breakups aren’t easy. There’s a reason why people are people are extremely vulnerable after a break up. Relationships are heavily invested with emotions and the termination of a relationship does come with huge emotional pitfalls.
Even the toughest and most independent individuals can have difficulties going through a breakup or divorce. Whether the decision is yours, your partner’s, or a mutual agreement, it is hard to leave behind something that impacted and influenced our lives in a huge way, and move on. After a breakup, remember that you are not alone, but rather have the support of friends and family to get you through this difficult time. During this time, it is important not to only recover from a break-up, but to also take this time to learn and grow as a person from your past.
Oxytocin, a chemical in the brain is often said to be the ‘love hormone’ because it is in a state of elevated activity in people who are in relationships. It is also perceived to be linked to feelings of trust and connection between two individuals. When Oxytocin is in an elevated state, the brain experiences bliss and flexibility. It learns to adapt to happy emotions, a sense of positive dependency and joy.
The brain starts working on the relationship by constantly adapting to the partner’s concern, care and emotional intelligence it is experiencing. If you take away all of this in one go, the brain is definitely going to experience some serious negative effects. It starts to miss all the positive sensations that it has taught itself to like.
Nobody likes to be dumped, but its human nature to let go of things that is not beneficial to oneself. There are a lot of reasons for breakups but the pain of rejection, the fear of being alone and the anger of being dumped is very real. Different people have different ways to deal with it and eventually overcome the breakup. The brain in all its complexity might have taken a blow, but it does have the ability to eventually repair itself and heal. The idea here is to help the brain heal.
It’s absolutely alright to cry, lock yourself in and not answer the phone for a while. A numb brain needs to get back to its normal state of sadness. From there, you can help it heal, one step at a time.